facebook part 2

What I really want to know is....when did it become acceptable to talk about people on facebook or to text that person with a problem instead of actually calling and talking to the person?

My sister-in-law is nuts.  She's a drug addict and she drinks alot.  She is over 30 and lives on peoples sofas.  She hasn't had a job in 3 years and she's tried to kill herself 3 times in 3 years.  Yes, the girl has issues!

We have tried to help many times.  She's the kind of person that you can never do enough for.  We've learned long ago not to give her cash.  We have put gas in her car, we have bought food and things for her at the store and Bossman has helped her with her car numerous times.  That's only the tip of the iceberg.  We've done so much for her it's unbelievable.

I'm only telling you this, so you will know who I'm talking about. 

On Fathers day, we went to visit with this sister.  It was at the in laws house, which we hadn't talked to any of them for over 6 months.  We had a lovely visit, the only downside was when we asked SIL about her health and she related that she's been having headaches.  When Bossman questioned her on her medication, she said that because of her financial situation, she had to sell her pills.  Um....yep, she sells her pills for cash.  Isn't that illegal?  Why would you tell someone that?  Also, why would you say that in front of your 14 year old nephew?  Needless to say, we are so proud!

Anyway....the facebook incident.   My FIL came to our house to pick something up and we got into a discussion about something that happened a long time ago in Vegas, that involved the SIL. 

A few days later....SIL posts on facebook.....

"Certain members of my family are talking to my father and trying to sully my already sullied reputation.  You know who you are.  If you really wanted to sully my reputation, you should just call me...I can give you all kinds of things to talk about."

It went on from there.

I should point out a few key things here.  One, neither Bossman or I are friends with her on facebook.  Two.  My kids are friends with her on facebook.

Now, you should know....I'm one of those really noisy parents that likes to get involved in my kids business.  I'm sorry, if you are under 18 and live under my roof I have the right to snoop on your facebook and your phone.  So, I was snooping on my sons facebook when I saw the post.  (Why yes, I do have his password!)

I couldn't believe what I was reading.  Furthermore, I couldn't believe that people that I don't even know commented on it.  It wasn't very nice either!

The bottom line is...I talked to my FIL.  There was nothing mean about it and it was NOTHING that my FIL didn't already know.  The incident in question happened 4 years ago and it's not even important.  Why my FIL felt the need to share with my SIL is beyond me.  He's not that kind of guy.  He's always been the guy that doesn't give his opinion and keeps his mouth shut.  Not that there was anything to keep his mouth shut from...but still.

Well, this story is long...isn't it? 

Long story short.  Bossman got pissed, called his family, heard his mom in the background calling me lovely lovely names.....and then got even more pissed.

Apparently I'm an effing bitch.  That coming from a strict muslims mouth.

Needless to say, things didn't end well.  One of the comments left on the original post was from Bossmans uncle who we don't even talk to.  He said some horrible, horrible things about Bossman and how wonderful the SIL is.  He called us hypocrites, said Bossman was pompous and on and on and on....

They are all blocked from our facebooks now.  Including my sons.
So back to my original question...

When did it become ok to air your dirty laundry on facebook?

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facebook and my father

Thanks for all the comments on the last couple of posts.  I did read them all, and they made me smile, I'm just to lazy too comment on each of them.  Sorry!

Lets talk about social media for a few minutes.  Unless you live under a rock, I'm sure you are familiar with facebook.

I love facebook.  I love playing the games on facebook (Yes A~, I even loved farmville for a while there...).  I love seeing what others are up to in their lives, including family that I otherwise wouldn't even know.

What I don't like about facebook is how personal people get.  I hate people that put up posts to make us feel sorry for them, or to get them attention.  My sister....she loves putting personal stuff on facebook.

I am not that way.  I like posting funny things, uplifting things, or nothing.  I like facebook to be cheerful, not sad.  Listen, I don't mind if someone announces a death, or if they need prayers for illness or things like that....but honestly, I only need you to post it once, not over and over again just to get attention.

This brings me to my sister.  Or should I say my father....

For those of you that don't know, let me quickly explain about my dad.  He abandoned my mother with 2 small children.  I was 5, at the time.  He didn't pay child support or contact us.  When I was preggers with my daughter (21 years ago) my sister found him...without telling me.  Gave him my number and he called out of the blue.  He visited once, when my daughter was 4 weeks old.  Since then, there have been some phone calls and cards, but that is it.  I send him a christmas card and maybe call once or twice a year.  SOOOOO....

My sister, on the other hand, visited him a few times.  I suppose she has had more contact with him.  Now, he's on dialysis and not doing well.  He lives in Arizona.  He needs to be in a convalescent home.  His wife has left him.  My sister has somehow gotten herself involved in this mess. This is where facebook comes in.

See, nobody bothered to call me and tell me what his health status is.  I found it out on facebook.  My sister would post things like....Please pray, my father is thinking of quitting all his treatment and will probably die soon......

And this....this is how I find things out.

For a while there, I would joke....not that it's funny...but I would joke that I needed to check facebook to see if my father died.  Kinda sad.

So, now my sister is having him moved to a town near us.  Apparently the wife has gone crazy and my sister has taken over his power of attorney.

I don't know how I feel about all this. 

Part of me doesn't care.  I know, that doesn't sound very nice, but honestly, I don't know the man, he was merely a sperm donor.

Part of me is pissed at my sister for getting involved and for moving him here. 

I am being so selfish.  I should care.  But I feel like he didn't do anything for us...why should we be helping him now.  Not that I'm helping.....I am not doing a thing to help.  My sister hasn't asked for any help, I think she knows I wouldn't help.  Does this make me a bad person?

Also, part of me thinks my sister is just doing all this for the attention.  Clearly all the facebook posts are a big cry for attention.  I have thought of blocking her just so I don't have to see her posts, but I do like finding out what's going on with my nephew.  Plus, how will I find out if he dies?  I'm pretty sure she would post it on facebook before she calls me.

Furthermore, what happens when he's in a nearby town?  I haven't actually seen the man since I was 23.  Last time I talked to him was in May.  Are they....my sister and him...going to expect me to go and visit him?  At this moment, I just don't think I'm going to do it.  BUT, will I regret it later?

There is just so much turmoil going around in my mind.  I don't know what to think.  He's being moved here next week.  I found that out on facebook too.

I haven't even told you about my sister-in-law posting something on facebook about me that wasn't even true.  I guess I'll save that for another post.






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God has a sense of humor.....

Thank you God for the round earth!

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Things that make me crazy....

Getting spanked with the backscratcher.

Having my sister-in-law say hateful things about me on facebook.

Having my husband lose his temper and cuss his parents and sister out.

Having my son go away for a week at summer camp and having my period the entire week.

Having my long lost father, who is dying, suddenly being moved to my state by my sister.

Taking tamoxefen for not getting cancer but having it wreak havoc on my hormones.

Not getting spanked enough.

Having PK say she's good at cleaning and cooking.  (HA, who am I kidding, that just makes me laugh!!!)

Wanting to blog and then when I sit down to blog I can't think of anything to say.

Realizing that in one month I'll be sending my baby away to school.

My 21 year old daughter.

Grocery shopping.

Cleaning out the cat box.

This list!!!!!!!!

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