do children dictate the strictness factor in your house?

I'm wondering if it makes a difference having children in the home as to how strict you are.

My Bossman and I have put the whole d/d thing on the back burner. I've noticed that alot of d/d couples go through ups and downs in the d/d relationship. We find it really hard to be consistent in our house, mostly due to children. I really can't have my Bossman spanking me when the children are home...even when they are asleep as their rooms are right next to ours and our home is very small. We have discussed how different life will be when the children leave the nest, and Bossman has hinted that he would probably be a lot more strict, if he could.

So, are we the only couple that finds it hard to be strict because of children, or are we just not creative enough. Also, is it strictness or consistently that is the problem?

I posted the above comment in a d/d club I'm a member of.

After posting this comment, I went back and read some of the responses. One of the ladies in the club said that she noticed that most couples in a d/d relationship either have no children or have adult children that don't live at home anymore. I have noticed this very fact myself.

Since I have children, I think that strictness and consistency are lacking in our d/d relationship.
For us it is a lot like training a puppy. They say when training a puppy that you should only discipline the puppy at the time of occurrence. I sort of feel the same when it comes to me. I don't want to have a list of things that I'm to be disciplined for later in the week when we have a few minutes. The purpose will have been lost on me. It's too late, by then the momentum is gone, the incident has been forgotten. Why bring it up again? Unless it is still something that is causing undue tension in the house, why even go there again?

Could this be the root of our d/d problems? Probably, but that doesn't mean we've given up on it.

As a matter of fact, I got a spanking this morning.....

But I'll save that for next entry!

later.........

duldrums of life

Does it ever seem like life just happens?

Everyday life comes and goes...what is the meaning of this?

Why does it seem like every day is the same old thing, and what is the purpose of these same old things that we do everyday?

I go to work, I come home, I fix dinner, and go to bed, and then....I do it again, and again, and again. Why? Why must we run around like chicken with our heads cut off and accomplish nothing?

Ok, the arguement could be made that we are raising our children to be successful happy adult.

Soooooo....what....so they can run around like chickens with their heads cut off and accomplish nothing? Is that really our sole purpose, to populate the world?

I guess I'm just wondering why I bother..... if I figure it out, I'll let you know!

later....

Survivor

Ok, I made it through yesterday, I had my pity party with myself and now I feel better! I think it's amazing what a persons death can do to you. I never had to deal with someone really close to me dying. Although it's been a hard journey, I am fascinated with all the emotions that I've had to deal with.

There is something really great that came of my Grandmas death. I got to meet cousins and uncle and aunt that I had never met. We have been keeping in contact with each other, and it's amazing how cool it feels to be related to someone, flesh and blood. All growing up I just had my parents and my brother and sister, we didn't live close to our other relatives. So other than the grandparents, I didn't know my other relatives. Now I feel like I'm part of an exclusive club that nobody else can join...unless of course they are born into it!

So I survived yesterday...and tomorrow Survivor starts! Oh how I LOVE that show!!! I simply can't wait! And they are teasing us by telling us that 2 old survivors will be on the show! I hope it's Rupert...I love that man! Another great survivor would be Johnny Fairplay!! That would be GREAT!!

Now lets talk spankings...or lack thereof!

I'm not getting any. Nope nothin', nada, zip, zero, zilch!

School is back in session, we've had lots of time, and the worst is Bossman keeps telling me he wants to start up with the discipline again. But has he? Do I have to remind him everyday? Geez I think I'm bratty enough, so that can't be the problem.

What's a gal gotta do to get a spankin around here? When I figure it out....I'll let you know!

later.....

In Memory

Today is the first anniversary of my Grandmothers death.

I'm really sad today. But I don't want to tell Bossman. I know he won't know what today is. I'm not mad that he won't remember, he's a man, so I expect that from him. But still I'm sad. I would like to wallow in my sadness. But I can't. I have to clean the house, pick up children from school. Cook dinner. You know...normal everyday life things.

But my Grandma died last year...on this date. I loved her. I will always love her.

How did I manage a whole year without her? How did I manage not calling her, telling her about my family..my life?

How did I manage?

I guess it just goes to show, life goes on. As much as I miss her, I still had to live. I still had children to take care of. I still had dinners to cook, I still had to clean the house and go to work. And I still think.....is this really important? Doesn't it all seem meaningless?

What is the purpose of our lives? Because once your gone...nothing matters anymore. So why are we here?

Oh I know. So we can cook dinner, raise our children, and die.

I guess I'm in a cynical mood. Can you tell?

Ok, I'll go now. I'm go live my life. I guess I should start with the house.........

later......