anal, yes or no?

Thank you all for the comments on my last post.  It seems as if we are all going through something right now in our relationships.  My man-child is going back to school this Sunday, so I'm hoping a little alone time will get us out of our funk.

I'm also hoping to convince him to spank me.  I mean really, is that too much to ask?

So a friend suggested....Ok, it was PK!  She suggested that one way to get in a more submissive state of mind was to try anal. More specifically, she suggested a butt plug.

I've always been fascinated with anal.  It's definitely a turn on for me.  Problem is, we haven't had much success in this area.  I get too afraid and tense up.  It's just such a different feeling and it makes me nervous.

Trust me, we've done all the things you should do, lots of lube, fingers first...you know, all that stuff. I just can't help it, it makes me nervous and I start sweating and it's just NOT good!

I want it to be good...I really, really, want it to be good.

So, what am I doing wrong?  Is there something else I can try?

 Also, any butt plug suggestions?  I'm thinking I would like to try one but it's really hard to shop for one online....who can tell how big or how small online?  What should I look for in a good plug? Shapes and sizes...I just don't know!

I would appreciate some suggestions!

Anally challenged,
grace