How can I be in charge, if you don't want to give up being in charge?
Bossman asked me this question the other day, and I've been pondering it ever since.
It's not that I don't want to give up being in charge. I like it when he's in charge. But I like having my say in things and....well, let's face it, I like things to go MY way.
So this is a real problem in our relationship.
If only he would just do everything MY way, things would be perfect. He can be in charge and I can have everything the way I like it......
Ok, so I guess that won't work.
I will tell you what works.
Wooden spatulas.
Oh yes, they really work.
Guess how I know.
Fine. I'll tell you.
Last night, I got a spanking.
A genuine, honest to goodness, spanking.
And boy howdy, it hurt. It hurt like a dickens. (gosh I sound southern, all of a sudden)
Bossman decided it was time to jump back into spanking. He didn't really have a specific reason, but it turns out that afterwards he admitted he DID have a reason. I'll get to that in a minute. The important part is that I got a spanking!
Did I mention that the wooden spoon/spatula thingie hurts? Cuz, it does. I've got the marks to prove it. Did I mention there were marks? Did I mention my butt is still sore today? Oh yeah baby....it hurts sooooo good!
Afterward we had some fun...and then we talked.
Bossman told me that he really had a reason but he didn't really tell it to me because I try to talk my way out of stuff. And guess what? I'm a pretty good talker! So after he told me that, we decided that when he felt it was time for a spanking, he wasn't going to tell me why until it was over. That way, I couldn't try and talk him out of it. I just have to submit to it and hear why after.
I have to admit....
I like it.
Because he's right. (don't tell him I said that) I DO try and get out of spankings. And I don't know WHY I do that. Because why would I try to get out of it if I really want it? I don't KNOW!
But I do. I do everything I can to talk my way out of a spanking. I have very good reasons for doing what I did, or saying what I said. I'm telling you, I should have been a lawyer! So now, I just have to get on with it and find out why after. THEN...I'll tell my side. (did you think I wouldn't?) But, it will be too late because my butt will be sore anyway. EVEN if I'm right. Which, I usually am. But WHO cares! Because my butt will be sore.
And I....
I will be happy. In turn, I will make Bossman happy.
Then...we will live happily ever after.
Sounds easy right?
Um, yeah.....right.
(Of course I'm gonna need a crown if we are getting into the fairy tales.)
Is spanking back in this relationship?
I wrote this first part last week....
Relationships are a funny thing. People are always comparing them to roller coasters and I can see why. One minute you are up, next you are down.
Our relationship is no different. Right now, things are looking UP!
Saturday was a great day. We slept in, which is always fun and we ate some breakfast. Bossman suggested a shower and so we headed to the shower. It was so nice. He scrubbed me down and I enjoyed every minute. When we got out, he led me to the bed and....and....and....
Yes! He spanked me! Of course he used the dreaded back scratcher, but hey, beggars can't be choosers. It was great. It was just like old times! Then, he pulled me to the wall and blindfolded me. Then he pulled me back over his knee but this time he rubbed my butt. The rubbing got lower and next thing you know....well....
I'm pretty sure you know what happened next!
I'm just stunned that it happened.
Over the last couple of days, we've been going to bed early and together...which never happens and we just talked. We talked about everything. We talked about spanking and we talked about our relationship and we talked about all the things that we have been going through.
People, he is still interested in spanking! We have had some serious discussions on the subject. I'm not going to get my hopes too far up....but I am pretty excited that there is at least some talking going on around here.
We are really going to try and make this relationship work and work for the better. We both want to improve things and I think spanking is going to be a part of it.
This is what's happening now...
We are still in the talking phase of things. Yes, there was a little spanking the other day, just for fun, but nothing major. It was a 3 minute backscratcher spanking. Just enough to sting, but not enough to leave a lasting impression.
Relationships are hard! Some people make it look easy, but it's not! The other day, we had a romantic shower. (I love how much of our romance starts in the shower.) Afterward Bossman suggested I go without a bra. I said ok. As we went throughout the day, we through out the day doing unromantic things like cleaning our bedroom, he would walk past me and touch my boobs. I was in busy mode and didn't appreciate the attention. So later that night Bossman says that we shouldn't do that anymore. He didn't like the way I responded.
~sigh~
I didn't mean to repond that way, but I guess that's how I came off. It's frustrating that I can't be the way I wish I could be. The way HE wants me to be.
But, it's not the end. Bossman just said we would think of other things, to go along with spanking. We haven't really started anything serious with the spanking, but the talking is good.
It's really good!
Relationships are a funny thing. People are always comparing them to roller coasters and I can see why. One minute you are up, next you are down.
Our relationship is no different. Right now, things are looking UP!
Saturday was a great day. We slept in, which is always fun and we ate some breakfast. Bossman suggested a shower and so we headed to the shower. It was so nice. He scrubbed me down and I enjoyed every minute. When we got out, he led me to the bed and....and....and....
Yes! He spanked me! Of course he used the dreaded back scratcher, but hey, beggars can't be choosers. It was great. It was just like old times! Then, he pulled me to the wall and blindfolded me. Then he pulled me back over his knee but this time he rubbed my butt. The rubbing got lower and next thing you know....well....
I'm pretty sure you know what happened next!
I'm just stunned that it happened.
Over the last couple of days, we've been going to bed early and together...which never happens and we just talked. We talked about everything. We talked about spanking and we talked about our relationship and we talked about all the things that we have been going through.
People, he is still interested in spanking! We have had some serious discussions on the subject. I'm not going to get my hopes too far up....but I am pretty excited that there is at least some talking going on around here.
We are really going to try and make this relationship work and work for the better. We both want to improve things and I think spanking is going to be a part of it.
This is what's happening now...
We are still in the talking phase of things. Yes, there was a little spanking the other day, just for fun, but nothing major. It was a 3 minute backscratcher spanking. Just enough to sting, but not enough to leave a lasting impression.
Relationships are hard! Some people make it look easy, but it's not! The other day, we had a romantic shower. (I love how much of our romance starts in the shower.) Afterward Bossman suggested I go without a bra. I said ok. As we went throughout the day, we through out the day doing unromantic things like cleaning our bedroom, he would walk past me and touch my boobs. I was in busy mode and didn't appreciate the attention. So later that night Bossman says that we shouldn't do that anymore. He didn't like the way I responded.
~sigh~
I didn't mean to repond that way, but I guess that's how I came off. It's frustrating that I can't be the way I wish I could be. The way HE wants me to be.
But, it's not the end. Bossman just said we would think of other things, to go along with spanking. We haven't really started anything serious with the spanking, but the talking is good.
It's really good!
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