Busy, busy, busy

Sadly I have forgotten all about you guys the last few weeks. Things have been crazy busy and April is turning out to be crazy busy too!

Not that I'm complaining, we have been having fun and living life!  The boy came home from college and we decided to take the rv to the beach for a couple of days.  The wildchild and her husband joined us for a couple of days.  There wasn't a lot of people there and the weather wasn't ideal but because of that it turned out perfect.  We had the beach to ourselves and it was nice a cozy in the rv when it rained.

I think I've mentioned that Bossman likes to race cars.  He's buying a new race car and so we will be spending some time at the track this month.  Lucky for me the track is 20 minutes from my daughters house so it's always fun hanging out with them.

Also Bossman has scored us a trip to Cabo.  If you will remember...and frankly, how could you forget, a couple of years ago we went but had to come back the next day because of a hurricane.  Well the same company is sending us back! YAY! It's this month so I'm hopeful there won't be any hurricanes in the forecast.

Now if you open your big book of grace, you might remember that I have a crazy mother-in-law.  We spent about 4 years not talking to her.  Back in June, Bossman's dad had some heart troubles and we went to the hospital.  It was the first time in 4 years that we had contact with his mother.  Since then, we've gotten along pretty well.  She even came over for Christmas.  A week before the college boy came home, she called and wanted to know if we could come over for dinner while he was home.  Long story short, I had to change the date a couple of times due to camping and a funeral of a friend that I wanted to attend.  BUT...I bent over backwards to make things work out.  On the day we were suppose to go over I called her and she acted surprised.  She said she would call back later in the day to figure out what we were going to do.  Couple hours later, she sent me a hateful text.  The text pretty much said she felt like an afterthought (I called her 3 times that week) She also couldn't understand why her grandson hadn't called her all week. (He's 18, I have no control over who he calls, also, he thought we were going to her house.) I was so mad and Bossman got so mad!  At first I was going to respond but then I decided not to say anything.  Bossman told me to leave it and that it was time to cut her off again.  I completely agree.  I am not going to let her treat me like crap anymore.  I don't deserve that.

Let's be clear, I am a very nice, forgiving person.  She is very hateful and I think she's bi-polar.  I'm so tried of trying to please her.  It was a good 9 months, but I'm done.  Also, just so you know, I never told the college boy what grandma said, I just told him that it didn't work out going over there.  He wasn't heartbroken over it.

I hope you all are doing good
Here are two great pictures from the beach

Crazy busy,
grace

28

Sunday, March 12th 1989.

That was the day we got married.  I was 20.  He was 20.  We weren't old enough to drink.  We weren't old enough to rent golf carts on our honeymoon.  We were, however, old enough to get married. Nobody should be old enough to get married at 20. For heaven sake, we were just babies.

The odds were against us.  In today's world the odds seem against marriage period.  Marriage at that age? HA!  Good luck.

We made it against the odds.  We stayed married.  We had two children and we raised them to adulthood.  We survived health scares and old cars and top ramen dinners.  We survived 10 moves and between us we survived 8 different jobs. We survived the dreaded 7 year itch.  We survived family dramas.  Together we mourned the passing of grandparents, fathers (mine) and his beloved sister.

We also celebrated. We celebrated the births of our babies.  We celebrated the weddings of our siblings. We celebrate the births of nieces and nephews.  We celebrated birthdays and holidays. We celebrated our children's graduations. We celebrated our daughters wedding. We celebrated our own anniversaries and we celebrated growing old together.

There are so many things that happened the last 28 years it's hard to recall them all.  These years have been full of happiness, sadness, fear, anger, laughter.  Mostly though, when I really think about it, I realize that these last 28 years have been filled with love. Actually, I didn't really have to think about it at all.

I'm not sure how I got to be so lucky.  I didn't do anything to deserve this life.  I didn't do anything to deserve this man.  I was just a girl who wanted to roller skate with a boy. Little did I know the boy I picked was the right one. Little did I know what a magnificent life we would have.

This ride has been amazing.  I wouldn't want to be on it with anyone else.  I sure hope we don't have to get off anytime soon.  We have so much to look forward to.  We are looking forward to our son graduation college, getting married, having babies.  We are looking forward to our daughter having babies. (soon please!)  We are looking forward to traveling in our trailer and retiring by the beach.

I don't know for sure what the future will hold, but I do hope that whatever happens we are together and holding hands. That and making omelettes.

read this book

Elizabeth's Bondage by Nikki Sex.

If you haven't read this book yet, I suggest you leave this blog right now, head over to Amazon, because we all know you have a kindle, and download this book.

So, I don't want to give much away, but it starts off with a woman blindfolded and bond to a bed.

Really, that's all I'm going to tell you.

Here's the thing.  It actually made me think.  Usually, books of this nature are sort of mind numbing.  Same old sex scenes, same old spanking scene or bondage scene.  Don't get me wrong, I like mind numbing.  But sometimes it a bit...repetitive.

I thought this book would be the same.  And honestly I was looking for something that was an easy read and that might get the juices flowing, as they say.

This book was that, but more.  There were some parts that made me think.  Some of it just made sense.  Like I was saying, YES, this is exactly how I feel.

All I know is you should read this book.  And then we should all discuss it.  I really would like to discuss it.

Also, My son will be home in 13 days.  In case you were keeping track.  Not that I'm counting the days, hours or minutes.  I have WAY more important things to do.

Now I need a new book.  Anyone know when Eva's book is coming out?  How about a new PK book about Cal?

Thoughtfully yours,
grace

boring post

No baby yet...bummer, but we kind of thought that would happen.  She felt that the timing was off so she was prepared for a negative result.  We are very hopeful for next month though!  Keep baby making thoughts flowing.  I told her to keep everything crossed except her legs.  She didn't think that was funny, but I found it hilarious!  I'm just a really funny gal!

Two weekends ago we decided to take out the trailer for a little camping time.  We went to a beach location not far from our house.  We had a great time.  It seems picking up the trailer and towing it always has it's challenges but once we get there and get settled it is well worth the hassle.

Bossman has spanked me a few times.  Usually it's nothing to write about just your average spanking before sex.  Not that I'm complaining.  I am glad to have it back in any capacity.  After blogging for so many years, it's really hard to write about spanking in an interesting way.  I keep waiting for inspiration to happen.  I'll be sure to let you know when that happens.

My son has been back at college since New Year's Day.  This is the longest I've gone without seeing him.  I miss him so much.  He will be coming home March 15th.  I can't wait!!!!!

I guess that's all for now.  I hope you all have been having a great February.

Boringly yours,
grace

Oh baby

My daughter, the wildchild, has been having health issues.  She's fine but there is one thing that is not fine.  She is having a hard time getting pregnant.  She's been married almost 2 years and unfortunatley they have been trying this whole time.

It's so hard being a parent and not being able to fix your childs problems.  I want to fix this so bad and I just can't!

She's taking a drug now that hopefully will help.  She found out today that her ovaries and tubes are all good so we are hoping...

I keep telling her that I will never give up hope.  Somehow, someway, she will have a child.  We don't know when or how this will happen and we don't even know if she will be the one delivering it but I KNOW it will happen.

Who knows, with this new drug, it could happen soon.  I'm not getting my hopes up. (Oh yes, I AM) but I just hope it happens.  As much as I want a grand baby, I just really want my daughter to be happy.

So, I'll let you know when to bring out the shawl, the cane, the dentures and the Ben-gay.  And if you could, sent a baby positive thought in my daughters direction!

Thanks,
Babies on my mind,
grace

Blocked!

I don't know if this is a yahoo thing or a blogger thing but I keep getting these when I comment on someone's blog.  Now, I know they aren't blocking me because I can see my comment on their blog.  One of my friends sent me an email and she got the same thing when commenting and yet I didn't block her and her comment showed up fine on my blog.  

So...what gives?  Anybody know what's going on?  Anybody know how to stop that from happening?

Also please note...I have not blocked ANYONE from commenting on my blog.  I have been very blessed to not get trolls on my blog.  I know they are out there, but so far they haven't snooped around here.  Either my writing is terrible or my stories are boring.  Whatever the case may be, they have stayed away and I am grateful for that.  So PLEASE don't think I blocked you.

I love you guys!  Thanks for continuing to read and comment!

Not-blocked-by-me,

grace

It happened like this...

When I last left you I was hoping against hope that I would get some action in the buttockal area.

There was action!

It happened like this...

BAH! You KNOW how it happened!  It happened like usual.  Getting frisky, head to the bedroom.  Pulls pants down. Faces you to the wall.  Undresses all the way.  Guides you over his lap.  Smacks the crap out of your ass. (Wait...what?) Puts you back against the wall.  Does something you cannot see.  Pulls you back over his lap.  Smacks the crap out of your ass again. (Ouch!) And then...well sheez, I am not going to kiss and tell! HA!

It was pretty awesome!  I forgot how much it hurts.  I forgot how much I liked it.  I forgot how much my butt hurts afterwards.  I forgot how sexy it is.

I remember now.  Damn!  That's good!

Tenderly,
grace

hopefully

For those of you questioning my thoughts on going to Yosemite in the winter, I feel the need to explain.

I live in CA.  It doesn't snow where I live.  If it gets in the 50's we complain and have to go find a hoodie.  We don't have snow boots, gloves, heavy coats or pretty much anything that keeps us warm.  We don't need it.  So, going to Yosemite and playing in the snow is a treat and a delight for us.  It's a novelty really.  Also it's a really good excuse to buy cute boots!

So no snow for us.  But like I said early, we had an awesome time in Vegas.  So awesome that we are thinking of going again at the end of Feb.  Or maybe for our anniversary in March.

Let's talk spanking for a minute.  Actually, lets just think about it for a minute.  Thinking...thinking...thinking...

Yep, it was really good.  I would like some more of that please!

I thought I might yesterday when Bossman said that later he might warm my butt.  I was a little non committal about it because frankly I never believe him when he says it and I was right to think that way because I pretty sure he forgot.  Kind of a bummer.  I could have reminded him, but I just don't want to become pushy about it.  I want him to want to do it.  I told him that a while back when we were talking about it.  I told him I didn't want to push him into something that he didn't want to do.  So...

I will try and be patient.  I think he just forgot.  Obviously, he wants to do it or he wouldn't have done it in Vegas.

Well, I'm holding out hope!

How was your weekend?  Anything exciting happen?

Hopefully yours,
grace

A little bit of this and a little bit of THAT

Yosmite was snowed in.  No electric and roads were closed.  So we had to come up with a plan b.  I mean we had the time off, we should use it.

We thought of taking out the rv.  Around these parts its been in the 50's.  Although not unbearably cold, it's was a little too cold for the beach.  So, after tossing around a few more ideas we decided to head to Vegas!

We've been here since Tuesday and are heading home tomorrow.  We've had the best time.  Bossman shmoozed his way into a pretty nice suite.  This place has two bathrooms.  I love having my own bathroom!  We didn't have much of an agenda so we've just been gambling a little and hanging out together.  It has been so much fun.

Last night things got a little sexy around here.  After doing a very silly strip tease, which included me flinging my bra around, Bossman ended up pulling me over his lap for a nice little spanking!

After not having one for awhile, it started to hurt pretty quickly and then things started going in another direction real fast, so it wasn't exactly a long spanking, but it was enough to get my attention and it was enough to make me realize I would like some more PLEASE!

Also, we won about 200 in the slots.

That's it for now,
Spankly yours,
grace

My back

My back is feeling much much better! Sitting is the worst, so I've been doing a lot of standing and laying.  I can finally sit without much pain.  The worst part of that whole episode is the wildchild and her hubby came to the house to paint my kitchen cabinets.  We paid them.  It took a couple of days and my house was torn apart but the cabinets look really nice now.  Problem was, I wasn't much help and I felt completely helpless.  But, it's done now so I survived.

Bossman and I had a rather interesting conversation the other night while in bed.  It's always easier to talk to him about sexual and spanking things in the dark.  Spanking was brought up and I'm hopeful that we might start up again.  I know, I've been saying that for awhile but it feels like everytime we have the house to ourselves, someone isn't feeling well (me) someone's back is hurting (again, me) or someone is on her period. (Hm who could that be?). By the time I'm back up and running, the wildchild is here. (Look who just walked in the door for the next 4 days!). She lives two hours away and yet I see her more than when she lived here.

Hopefully, things will turn around next week.  Oh, we are headed to Yosemite to the snow, so, who knows, maybe it will be the perfect time to warm my buns!

Hopefully yours,

grace

7 years

Even when you are down and out, the world keeps spinning.  Time keeps moving.  Life goes on.

7 years ago on Jan 15th, around noon, I got the call that would change my life.  It would change the way I live. It would change the way I think.  It would change the way I look. It would change my mental and physical being.  It was the day I found out I had breast cancer.

Amazingly enough, I didn't even think about it yesterday.  I may not have thought about it today if it weren't for facebook memories that like to pop up when you least want them.

I'm one of the lucky ones.  I survived.  My sister in law died 6 months after I found out.  She didn't survive.  She did everything she could to survive but it didn't happen.  It's not because she didn't fight, it's not because she lost the battle.  It's because her body was different than ours.  It didn't respond to the treatment.  It wasn't her fault.  She did everything in her power.

It's just crazy.  I don't understand it.  One survives, one doesn't.  It's just not fair.  But it's life and we have to deal with it the best way we can.  We cannot live in fear.  We must live our best life because the ones that aren't here would have wanted it that way.  They would love to still be here living.  So we must live on, for them.

So today I'm going to live.  I'm going to enjoy my day.  I'm going to appreciate THIS day for tomorrow is not promised.

I suggest you do the same!

Survivingly,

grace

Backache

My back has been hurting all week.  Just a low dull pain in my back.  Today I had a baby shower to attend.  Also, my lease is up on my car, so after the shower we were going to get a new car.

Sounds like a nice day right?

Also, before I even got out of bed, I had lovely morning sex.

So, you see, the day was looking bright!

I got all gussied up and headed out to the garage.  Bossman was following me because we were talking about how this was my last ride in my car, I really loved that car.  I put my leg into the car when...

BAM!  My back literally went out.  Like, I couldn't move.  I was stuck with one foot in and one foot out of the car.

Thank goodness Bossman was there.  After I got a grip on what was happening he was able to help me shuffle into the house.  I bent over the counter...much like a spanking position and decided I was just going to lay there for the rest of the day.  Although I was in a lot of pain, I was very aware of the position I was in.  I was really wishing the pain in my back was lower and hotter.

So, now I sit here on a heating pad.  Again, why couldn't my butt be heated?  Instead I missed out on my really great day.  I didn't make it to the shower and my husband is picking up my new car without me.  I don't even know if I will be able to ride in it today.

So, in conclusion...I'm feeling very very sorry for myself right now.  Feel free to feel sorry for me too!

Achingly yours,
grace

Happy New Year

I hope you all had a very happy holiday.  Over here in Graceland, we are spoiled  rotten.  Everyone got exactly what they wanted.  It was a wonderful day.  We all got along wonderfully and we just had a really nice time.

The mus*lim came over on Christmas night.  She was quite pleasant until she wasn't.  That's pretty much how it goes with her.  Luckily, Bossman but her in her place and she backed off and we all survived without drama.

The wildchild and her husband left the day after Christmas and The boy and his girlfriend both leave on New Year's Day.  I'm happy they are here, but it will be nice to have my house back.  I forgot how much work it is to keep the house clean and people fed.  So much work!

I hope everyone is having a happy holiday season.  The new year is almost here and I am ready for a fresh start.  I won't make resolutions because that just sets me up for failure, but I am planning on doing some freshening up on my life and my house.

One more things before I go.  I mentioned to Bossman that I would like to start some things up after everyone leaves and he agreed and when I asked him if he knew what I was talking about it said, YES!  So, there is that to look forward too!

Happy New Year Everyone!

Optimistically yours,
grace

Holiday craziness

The boy made it home.  It normally takes 16 hours...it took 24, and they didn't stop.  It was bad, bad, bad!  I was so happy to see that boy walk through the door.

The boys girlfriend came for the holidays.  She is from Indiana.  She got here the same day he came home.  The wildchild was here already with her husband.  She is a wedding photographer and was here to do a wedding.  It is a FULL house here.

As Donkey, from Shrek says, it's not Christmas unless someone is crying and well...the day after everyone came home, the boy and the wildchild got into a fight.  Oh brother.  I thought I was over refereeing my kids fights.  My daughter ended up in tears, then I was in tears.  It was super fun!

Luckily, the next day, I made them all sit down and make up.  I told them they didn't have to like each other but they had to get along for christmas.  I didn't want a gift, I just wanted that.

After that, everyone got along fine.  They even hung out together.

Whew! Christmas was saved!

So Christmas Eve is at my house.  My whole family is coming.  It should be a good time.  Christmas Day will be just our immediate family.  It is going to be a great weekend.

I'll be honest though, as happy as I am to have everyone here, I'll sure be happy when they leave! HAHA!

I hope you all have a very Merry Christmas.  Or whatever you celebrate, I hope you are happy!

Love and good wishes,
grace

Happy Birthday PK!!!!!

I've been friends with this lady for a very long time!!!!  We've even met in person.

I sure hope PK has a great birthday!

I know you are 60 now.  If it's any consolation just know, I'm younger than you!

You're welcome!

Love you!

HUGS!
grace

Me worried? NAH!

So, how are your christmas plans coming along?  Are you finished shopping? Wrapping? Cleaning? Cooking?

Yeah, me neither!

In other news, the BOY is coming home.  He's 16 hours away and he's leaving today.  He's driving with 2 other boys.  Here's the problem.  It's suppose to snow 4 to 6 inches right on his path home. Needless to say, I'm a tad worried.

HA! Who am I kidding?  I'm really, really worried!  These boys are california boys.  They don't have experience driving in the freaking snow!  I am so nervous for them!  I am glad they will be together and I know they will be going slow.  But, it's a long drive and I will worry until I see his smiling face tomorrow! I mean, I'm a mamma, that's what we do.

If you have a spare prayer today, could you say one for these boys?  Thank you!

I gotta run, there is presents to buy, food to cook and a house to clean.

Anything to keep my mind from worrying!

Not-worried-at-all,
grace

Warning, depressing post.

Ever since I had cancer I've been a little paranoid about health issues.  I like to call it canceritis because every pain or weird thing is cancer. (In my mind).   One of my biggest fears is having some sort of health problem and not being at home.  Things my stupid brain thinks about is...what if I'm on this trip and I have a heart attack?  What if I'm far away from home and I need a doctor?

I know it's useless to worry about stuff like that.  If it's going to happen, its going to happen.  I really don't have any control over stuff like that.

On an even more depressing note.  My brothers best friend died on Saturday of a heart attack.  He was only 40.  I personally didn't know him well, I only met him a handful of times, but, as you can imagine, my brother is devastated.  I'm just really sad for my brother.  And for his friends family.  And really for everyone involved!  It's just SAD!  Things like this shouldn't happen and it really shouldn't happen right before the holidays.  I am terrible at handling sad.  I'm sure we are all terrible at it, but it makes me anxious.  When I'm anxious I tend to curl in a ball, hide under my blankets.  BAH!

Well, that's all I've got.  Tomorrow will be better! 

Depressingly,

grace

Christmas already?

We've been busy, busy, busy!  When you have 17 bins of Christmas stuff, it tends to take many many hours to set it all up.  Every evening we are busy doing things.  Tonight we worked outside.  Our house is coming along, but man, it's a chore! We do love it though, so we aren't willing to throw in the towel yet.

I can't believe it's almost Christmas.  It seems like this year has gone so fast. My son graduated, started college.  My daughter moved 2 hours from me. Life is crazy.

So, MIL... can we just talk about her some more?  She is nuts.  I think I've said that before.  She called me a couple of days after she came to our house.  So, do you have anyone in your life that repeats stories over and over? (Besides me..HAHA). Seriously, I haven't talked to her in 3 years and honestly, she is telling me the same stories she told me 3 years ago.  It's sad because it means she has no life!

So how are your holidays going so far?  Are any of you as crazy as we are?

Ho, ho, ho,
grace

We may have a problem...

We have a Christmas problem.  We just pulled 17 plastic bins from the attic.  17 bins.  Of Christmas decorations! Good grief, Charlie Brown, THAT is a lot of decorations.  

I was going to try and defend this travesty but honestly, I love it!  Now some of those bins hold our Christmas village.  A couple of bins hold my nativity sets. ( I just love collecting them) and quite a few of those bins are for our outdoor decorations.

Fine, just call us the Griswolds and call it a day!!! HA!

Now you know what we've been doing today.  How's your Sunday been?

Christmasy,

grace

Crazy MIL

The last 6 months have been so crazy for me.  I know I have shared some of it but there have been some developments that I haven't shared.

I don't know how many of you remember, but Bossman has a crazy mother.  I mean, the woman is bonkers!  A number of years ago she became a mus*limThe woman raised Bossman and his sisters in a strict christian family.  Suddenly, she meets some guy on facebook and decides to become mus*lim.  I am afraid she would find this blog online if I use the M word so I'll try not to use it much.

In any case, I'm all for people having their own beliefs in life, but her transition to M has just thrown the entire family for a loop.  We have gotten used to it, but honestly, she's a old white woman in a head scarf.  I know what it's called but I don't want to say it here.  Trust me, it's weird.  When this all first happened, she was very pushy with her new found beliefs.  She would talk about Moha*mmd a lot and it drove us crazy.  We didn't want to here it and she wouldn't stop even after asking her to stop.

6 years ago we lost Bossmans sister.  It was a traumatic time for all of us but there was a ton of drama when it came time for the funeral.  Since then there has been tons MORE drama and for the past 3 or 4 years we have had no contact with my MIL.  We have had limited contact with Bossmans dad, and YES, he is still married to the crazy one.  But we only saw him at church.

ANYWAY, I tell you all that so I can tell you that in June my FIL had some medical problems and Bossman felt we should go see him in the hospital and of course, we knew we would be seeing HER. We sucked it up and went and everything was ok.  Bossman wasn't interested in having a full blown relationship with her, but over the months, they have needed some help with yard work and stuff and well, we've had some contact.  On Bossmans birthday, she came over to our house.  She hasn't been here for 4 years, so it was a little weird.  Everyone got along fine, but they were here late and that is why I missed posting that day.

So, that's been going on and it's a little bit good and a little bit scary because although things are good, you never know when the drama will happen again and Bossman and I are not getting involved in the drama again.  I'm praying there won't be drama because I think even though she's bonkers, she is Bossmans mom and she's getting older so...you just never know what will happen in life.  Bossman's dad has a bad heart and who knows what will happen if he has a problem.  She literally has no one in her life except Bossmans sister and she's pretty useless.

Well, this story could go on but I guess I bored you enough for today.

I am very thankful Bossman and his mom are on speaking terms.  And right now that's all I can ask for.